i am an introvert.
I stumbled across this list this morning in my blogging travels. I recently described myself as "painfully shy" in real life to my newest of great friends and "awkward in social settings" to my principal, but I feel that describing myself as an "introvert" is much more fitting. This list of myths describes what I know about myself to be true. It is actually pretty spot on. I have been mistaken for rude, shy, aloof and no fun in public, but I'm not. Certain criteria just need to be met for me to be my cool self. (read on! - and please comment - all you secret followers)
Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.
This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.
Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.
Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite.
Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.
Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.
Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.
On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.
Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.
Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.
Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.
Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.
Myth #7 – Introverts are weird.
Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.
Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.
Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.
Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.
Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.
Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.
Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.
original source of list: http://www.carlkingcreative.com/10-myths-about-introverts









July 23rd, 2011 - 09:48
Love this Lindsay! Even though I consider myself an “extrovert”, most of the points in italics fit me to a tee as well. I love that you embrace who you are and all the awesomeness that you are!
July 23rd, 2011 - 10:37
SO true.I’m definitely an introvert myself. Thanks for posting this. Btw, I LOVE reading your blog. It makes me smile.
July 23rd, 2011 - 13:03
Same here. I seem kind of stuck up, but it’s really just that I have to get to know you. I can’t stand too much noise, or too many people, drives me insane.
July 23rd, 2011 - 21:32
When we hang out I will try to deliver all of the criteria necessary for you to be your cool self;) However, it seems to me that you have no problem being cool/individualistic! I sent you a personal message on FB with my comments about this post rather than putting all the details here for the whole world to see (isn’t that what an introvert would prefer?!!). I will tell the world though, that I love this post:)
I must also confess and appologize for initially being one of the people who misinterpreted you and then had the nerve to later tell you about it (“shy” and “aloof” or disinterested were my words I think! I did NOT say rude though. Whew!)
Keep writing, Funkier Lindsay!!!
July 24th, 2011 - 09:07
Thanks ladies!
ps. Aly, there were other people who used those words too. Don’t feel bad. hah a.
July 24th, 2011 - 10:25
Right on Linds!
July 25th, 2011 - 10:04
De-lurking! :)
I used to think I was “painfully shy” or an introvert too…until I went away to University and realized I just wasn’t comfortable in highschool and wasn’t being my real self there (unless I was around just my friends).
I hate when people want to ‘fix’ that – it’s your personality!
See you tonight! :)
July 25th, 2011 - 12:28
hehe. Thanks Joelene! (I actually follow your blog too.. lalala)
August 1st, 2011 - 18:20
haha….secret follower. Actually I need to start up my own blog really. I met you ages ago via nervousness….
Anyway, I know exactly what you mean. I still am introverted around my family by your criteria because I don’t feel like I can be myself. It wasn’t until I went off on my own abroad and to university that I felt I was truly in my own skin.
The worst “label” so far has been “you just think you’re better than everyone else”. And how would this person know since I never really talked to her and she didn’t know me?
August 2nd, 2011 - 08:05
AHh. yes I definitely remember you Carrie
Thanks for commenting secret follower (looking forward to your new blog?)
grr. Mean comment you got! – I imagine there are people who think the same thing about me. Sigh.